Join Holli and Jeanna as they explore:
- To Seattle H&J went for Jeanna’s 25% capacity pandemic birthday celebration
- They ate more than they drank – this is a first
- Music in chauffeur daughter’s car was fire – driving, hmmm…..
- Weirdness is still in the air with COVID. It’s disarming – are people scared or do they think its just fake news – hard to figure out where people are at and what are the rules
- Holli explains her floating bone
- Let’s stop making people uncomfortable
- Mask is sticking around for awhile
- Mental health and happiness is a priority
- Being hunkered down with the family requires healthy boundaries
- Being uncomfortable may be a sign that you don’t have good boundaries
- For example, you don’t want to be hugged and someone hugs you, you feel discomfort
- Leaky boundaries will add to your stress
- Self care is healthy boundaries, not too loose and not too strict
- Let’s rebrand self care – taking suggestions
- Physical and emotional boundaries
- Boundaries are a respect for self
- What’s a boundary and what’s a choice?
- Verbalizing your boundaries is important so that people know
- Rigid boundaries are unhealthy and therapy would be helpful to ease stress
- Too loose boundaries is also unhealthy, they are not articulated and then the person internalizes the discomfort. Everyone has boundaries even if not articulated
- You can be good at boundaries at work but too loose with loved ones
- How you communicate the boundaries is extremely important. Make sure it is not directed at them but about you.
- Look at the intent behind when someone breaks your boundaries and sometimes give them grace for positive intent
- During COVID – maybe your employer calls you at al hours, maybe your kids interrupt your meetings – all of this you determine is disrespectful and needs a boundary
- Set those boundaries now!
- What makes me feel worse during the day and why? Is it from others? Can you clearly articulate the issue?
- The decompression time of the commute or the work-out has vanished during COVID – it’s a great time to set a boundary
- 7 examples of boundaries H&J style:
- Communicating thoughts, feelings, and needs
- Telling others how you want to be treated
- Deciding which problems are yours and which problems belongs to others
- Not “saving the day” and letting others be accountable for the natural consequences of their choices
- Having personal space and privacy
- Not providing an explanation for your “no”
- Saying no to the things you don’t have the time, energy or resources for….and no to the things you don’t want to do
Uplevel Uncorked Assignment: Explore your personal boundaries and how they can be improved. What makes you uncomfortable – start the exploration there! Where do your boundaries look like Swiss cheese?
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