Episode 20 – Jeanna’s COVID Birthday and say a hell YeS! To healthy boundaries!

Join Holli and Jeanna as they explore: 

• To Seattle H&J went for Jeanna’s 25% capacity pandemic birthday celebration   
• They ate more than they drank – this is a first 

• Music in chauffeur daughter’s car was fire – driving, hmmm…..  
• Weirdness is still in the air with COVID.  It’s disarming – are people scared or do they think its just fake news – hard to figure out where people are at and what are the rules 
• Holli explains her floating bone 
• Let’s stop making people uncomfortable 
• Mask is sticking around for awhile 

• Mental health and happiness is a priority 
• Being hunkered down with the family requires healthy boundaries  
• Being uncomfortable may be a sign that you don’t have good boundaries 
• For example, you don’t want to be hugged and someone hugs you, you feel discomfort 
• Leaky boundaries will add to your stress 

• Self care is healthy boundaries, not too loose and not too strict 
• Let’s rebrand self care – taking suggestions 
• Physical and emotional boundaries 
• Boundaries are a respect for self 
• What’s a boundary and what’s a choice? 

• Verbalizing your boundaries is important so that people know 
• Rigid boundaries are unhealthy and therapy would be helpful to ease stress 
• Too loose boundaries is also unhealthy, they are not articulated and then the person internalizes the discomfort.  Everyone has boundaries even if not articulated 
• You can be good at boundaries at work but too loose with loved ones 
• How you communicate the boundaries is extremely important.  Make sure it is not directed at them but about you.  

• Look at the intent behind when someone breaks your boundaries and sometimes give them grace for positive intent 
• During COVID – maybe your employer calls you at al hours, maybe your kids interrupt your meetings – all of this you determine is disrespectful and needs a boundary 
• Set those boundaries now! 
• What makes me feel worse during the day and why?  Is it from others?   Can you clearly articulate the issue?  
• The decompression time of the commute or the work-out has vanished during COVID – it’s a great time to set a boundary 

• 7 examples of boundaries H&J style: 

• Communicating thoughts, feelings, and needs 
• Telling others how you want to be treated 
• Deciding which problems are yours and which problems belongs to others 
• Not “saving the day” and letting others be accountable for the natural consequences of their choices 

• Having personal space and privacy 
• Not providing an explanation for your “no” 
• Saying no to the things you don’t have the time, energy or resources for….and no to the things you don’t want to do 

Uplevel Uncorked Assignment: Explore your personal boundaries and how they can be improved. What makes you uncomfortable – start the exploration there!   Where do your boundaries look like Swiss cheese?